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    8/20/2008

    告别完美主义

        从来不相信星座,认为每一个星座的特质都或多或少蕴含着复杂人性中的某种余晖。每每别人问我是什么星座的,我都会反过来让他们猜,而每每,他们的答案总是惊人的相似,都说我是处女座的。虽然他们猜错了,但我很好奇,自己究竟具备处女座的什么特质,一问才知,在别人眼中我是个完美主义者。

         好吧,我承认,自己对完美曾经有着一种苛求。从小到大,在我的生活圈子里,我总是希望比别人出类拔萃,无论是学习成绩还是综合素质,抑或小提琴、围棋、书法、芭蕾等兴趣爱好,我都在尽最大的努力做最好的自己,少了玩乐的时间,多的是超乎同龄的成熟,在不断追求完美的过程中,我累并快乐的。

        其实谁都明白,世上从来就没有完美的事物,就连科学赖以发展的公理,也总是存在某种假设和前提。可人性就是这么矛盾,即使看清了一个道理,也难以抑制内心深处的本我。

        完美固然能在某种程度上体现出一种高尚的追求,但对完美主义者而言,在一个现实的世界里,我们找不到理想的乌托邦,因此便会对很多事物感到不满,认定他们或多或少都有这样那样的缺陷,或多或少都有非得改变的理由。

        随着年龄的增长,视野的开阔,现实告诉我,我不再可能在任何方面都得心应手了,越来越多优秀的人走进了我的圈子,理所当然,在许多方面博而不精的我也就失去了优势。突如其来的改变令我十分不适,内心的成就感被巨大的失落吞噬。意识到自己和别人存在种种差距后,我才豁然开朗,原来,我是如此平凡。

        忘了是谁告诉我,改变不了现实,就试着改变自己的想法。时至今日,对完美的苛求只会徒增我的压力,毕竟是年轻的孩子,何必把心压得太沉重呢。卸下沉重的负担,是时候该向完美主义告别了。

        就如After all, tomorow is another day一样,每一个故事的结局似乎都应预示着某种希望。未来的路还很漫长,但愿我能如奥林匹克格言——更快、更高、更强...

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    fei yewrote:
    你还会拉小提琴啊?厉害~传说中的才女?
    Aug. 22
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    小卉 wrote:
    师姐,你是最优秀的,加油加油加油!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    Aug. 22
    Hansi Menwrote:
    你已经很完美了 至少在我看来
    Aug. 21

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